Bold, Bald, and Beautiful: Part 2

inked by Julia

I started this blog post in the hospital when I was anticipating my homecoming. I arrived home last Tuesday evening, and by Wednesday afternoon, the deed was done—I shaved my head.

I couldn’t take another day of looking like a balding middle-aged man. I took a before shot of my hair and sent it to my sisters and I don’t think they really knew how to respond because it was that bad. My goal of hair loss was to not reach Gollum status, which I think I succeeded in, but it’s a close call. 7

Along this hair loss journey, I feared how I’d feel buzzing my head. When the day came, the mood in the house was quiet and somber, and no one really knew what to do or say. My mom and I cried together.

Being an all-girl-plus-a-dad house, we were unsure of how to even use clippers. Luckily, my mom had not given away her mother’s (a former hairdresser) clippers, and we dusted them off to give ‘em a whirl. I have an awesome husband, like I’ve said a billion times, who offered to go first. We all laughed watching my mom shave a head for the first time. Once his head was shaved, it was my turn. It’s strange—after all the tension building up to that point, I wasn’t nervous after seeing Michael shave his head.  My head shaving went smoothly and easily.

Now I’m five days into being a bald beauty, and I’ve got to tell you, it’s really not that bad. I mean, don’t get me wrong–there are times when I look in the mirror and don’t recognize myself. I also feel pretty self-conscience when people see my baldhead for the first time, and I’m aware of the stares I get out in public. I don’t blame them, either, because I’ve been there! But most of the time, I embrace the new look. Getting ready takes no time at all. I do miss having the feminine look that long hair gives me, but a baldhead shows off the rest of my face. I’m ready to give bald a chance!

I searched the internet for tips from other young women who’ve battled cancer and lost hair in the process, but I couldn’t find much. Here are a few tips (I wrote them when I still had some hair) for any other women out there who might be in the same hair loss boat:

Depending on the length of your hair, it’ll shed like crazy even as you cut it shorter and shorter (which I highly recommend).  For most of the stages of hair loss, you need a lint roller. Rolling up the mess is a lot less sad than picking it up strand-by-strand, and it’s much easier.

I would also recommend a silk pillowcase. They are much most gentle on your little head, and I think they are very comfortable. I used a head wrap instead of the hospital towels after showers. In the early stages, it didn’t pull any hair out. Now, it’s a little bit different, but I still think it helps.

Accessorize! As I approached the end of the first phase of treatment, my hair was mainly thinning out on top, but the back was starting to go as well. I found the cutest headbands to cover up the top of my head and make it look super stylish! Stock up on every type of hat, scarf or headwrap that tickles your fancy. I tried not to wear anything in the hospital, because I felt like it pulled out the hair I had left, and it just littered the inside of my clean hats and headbands with hair.

Lastly, don’t leave the house without confidence. I say that as a pep talk for myself, because I want to share my new look with you. I do this with hesitation, but here I am, world!IMG_0043

Anddd here’s one to tug at your heartstrings.

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26 thoughts on “Bold, Bald, and Beautiful: Part 2

    • You have to be one of the most beautiful young ladies I know. Your spirit just shines. You have such a pretty face now every one can see…and Julia the humorous side of things you have a beautiful shaped head not all of are blessed with so you really don’t have to cover yours up you rock the look with that mags watt smile!!

  1. Thank you so much Julia for making me laugh at that first picture and then making me cry at the last two pics. YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL and AMAZING! Words that come to mind when I read your blogs, see your pics…love, acceptance, perseverance, long-suffering, faith, GRACE and more love! The Lord is using you to encourage and inspire others. We love you and we are praying for you!

  2. Julia, you are such a beautiful girl and nothing can take that away. I admire so much your courage in there way you are handling this. You are truly honoring your Lord and Saviour!

  3. You make me laugh Julia 😆 I’m so inspired by your faith and confidence. You’re in my prayer journal everyday!! Ps you and Michael are adorbs haha

  4. Julia I think you are one of the strongest people I know. You look beautiful!!! Your faith and courage have touched my heart. Reading your blogs and sobbing by the end, you are truly an inspiring woman and I will continue to be praying for you. God bless you Julia!!!

  5. Julia, that is the most beautiful bald head I have ever seen! Thank you for showing us your faith and grace and your love for the Lord. Prayers and hugs:)

  6. Your story is truly inspiring, and you’re so naturally beautiful. I can tell by all the comments that you have made an immense impact on those around you, and will continue to do so. I wish you all the best as you begin this new journey!

  7. My Dear Julia,
    Speaking as a cancer survivor for 5 years now… I’ve learned that God gives you the strength you need as you need it…. we just have to ask. He will not give us anything more than we can bear (which may seem like an awful lot at times). His grace is sufficient. Rest peacefully in His loving arms.
    Nancy

  8. Gorgeous! It may be that being married to a bald man, I’m not fazed by a bald head? But when I first met you with Michael, what I noticed was your large, kind & twinkling eyes…the very same ones staring back at the camera in the second photo! Keep the positive thoughts in your heart & mind & the twinkle will stay in those beautiful eyes God blessed you with❤️

  9. Julia… You are absolutely gorgeous. I know this is crazy but I am totally going to say it…. Your head is beautifully and perfectly round. No one would have seen that or known that otherwise. I know that sounds silly but there are men that should just wig it up so we don’t have to look at their uneven baldness but you have a perfect crown. One to be proud of. There I said it….. And FYI your husband has a nice crown also, from what I could see threw the tears….. (It is the truth but I do hope you were smiling as you read it.)

  10. You are amazingly BEAUTIFUL! 💜 and you are right it does show off that gorgeous face of yours. This will be the time in your life you can experiment with your makeup and all the cute and fun headbands, scarves and hats but honestly you are beautiful without all that too! Embrace the beauty that is you. We all should understand that our beauty is so much more than our outward appearance. It comes from inside and you have already started sharing your wisdom and beauty with others that will need your help. Your wonderful parents have taught you girls well and you are a shining example of that. You’re a star baby! Keep blogging please. I pray that you feel better as you go along. I know you certainly have your days when you do not feel so great and on those days I pray God will wrap you in his loving arms and give you the comfort you need. God blessed you with that wonderful husband so cuddle up with him on those days and watch movies that will lift your spirits. We will continue to pray for you as we have been and look forward to reading more from you. I think about you all the time. Take care honey and rest! Much love, Patti

  11. Oh Julia, I’m standing here in my kitchen reading your blog to Dan. He loved the first picture by the way. Your honesty and openness about your journey will speak to many. God bless you both.

  12. I visited my beautiful, bald grandaughter yesterday and she is the most lovely girl with or without hair.   She has a very pretty shaped “melon” and of course the wonderful smile is still there.  I love you Julia, continue to fight the fight and kick cancers behind.  

  13. I’ve said the same to my 4yo (who was still 3 when she lost her hair)—not having hair truly shows off the beauty of a face. There really are so many beautiful bald ladies out there!

    Also, I follow a few 20-something’s on IG who’ve lost their hair-turbans seem to be all the rage. Not sure my 4yo would ever wear one but they sure look cute on older girls.

  14. Hi, you don’t know me and I don’t know you but I am Facebook friends with Lia Hickinbotham and she posts your blog all the time. You have been on my heart and praying for you! And you look beautiful!

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